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with the help of Nonviolent Communication and Humanistic Astrology

 

 

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»  Astrofocus-therapy (ego-states)

»  Astrofocus-therapy (life path)

»  Teleconsultation (for people living abroad)

 

 

If you are unsure about which form is best for you, we can meet in advance for free for half an hour max., to figure out together which consultation or therapy fits best your question or problem.

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EMPATHY CORNER

I believe challenge and supporting background should be both present to promote development and personal growth. It seems to me we all get enough challenges but much less understanding and empathy. I find empathetic attention can also help adolescents a lot.

It is for you, if:

  • inspite of trying hard to make yourself understood, people can't really hear what you want to say, and maybe you have even started to lose hope

  • you can feel an inner tension, you have many things whirling in you and you don't know how to puzzle out the threads

  • you would like to share worries or joys with someone who can listen to you with "understanding ears"

What do you get? - attention, compassion, empathy. The possibility to get into connection with your feelings and yourself, to recognize your needs and to have a wider look on the situations in your life.

What don't you get? - advice, critics, judgments.

How does it happen? - we fix an appointment, you come and talk about what is alive in you, I give you attention and ask questions to help you think over the situations and explore your deeper needs. One session is 50 minutes long.

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NVC CONSULTATION

When emotionally touched, we sometimes do not express ourselves in a way that helps cooperation and builds the relationship. Nonviolent Communication enables us to see our motivations more clearly and to talk with compassion and constructivism about what is alive in us. During the consultation we can talk over a further situation, or one that has already happened and didn't make you happy.

It is for you, if:

  • you would like to make yourself understood by others, but you don't always succeed in spite of your efforts, and sometimes you really get sad about this

  • you sometimes get the critique: "you never listen to me"

  • you would like to handle your conflicts in a way that builds your relationships and brings joy to both of you

What do you get? - empathy and communicational ideas

What don't you get? - critics, judgments

How does it happen? - we fix an appointment, you introduce the case, I help you clarify your needs with attention and questions, we guess the other person's needs, and then we work out possible dialogue patterns. One session is 50 minutes long.

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HUMANISTIC ASTROLOGY CONSULTATION

The humanistic approach says each problem derives from us - no matter where it is: inside or outside. The way it derives from us is sometimes obvious, but sometimes it is mysterious and as deep as the ocean. Astrology explores the deepness, because we need to understand it in order to influence the surface.

 

Topics, questions, types of problems we can work on - not mentioning all of them:

  • general map of the personality - what ego states do I have?

  • problems with intimate relationships (lack of partner, games you often play, relationship or marital crisis, inability to break up, ...)

  • self-realization, life-missions, career questions

  • self-estimation problems

  • going through traumas

  • relationship with parents and children

  • communication problems

  • handling your own or other people's aggression

  • getting stuck, getting unsure, crisis

  • timing (when to get married, when to found a company, ...)

  • topics, important areas of the year from birthday to birthday (this can also be a birthday present)

It is for you, if:

  • you are stuck in your life and you are looking for ways out

  • when you look at your questions on your own, you don't get to new thoughts and you get tired of running around the same circles

  • you would like to get to know better the motives of your psyche, so that you can get the most out of yourself and so that you can experience joy in your everyday life

What do you get? - empathy, new points of view, thought-provoking questions, strategies, ways of solving the problems

What don't you get? -  forecasting events of the future, prognostation (because the future is not only formed by external forces - we influence it ourselves, so it is more efficient to focus on the present in order to create a future we would like)

How does it happen?

  • the first step is completing a questionnaire, you tell me the topic and I send you the adequate document to fill in. I need this to see what analogical patterns you repeatedly meet in your life and what kind  of situations your natal chart is lived through. This helps me avoid using clichés which don't work with everyone. If you don't want to give written answers, you can tell me about these things at the personal session(s).

  • when I get the questionnaire, we fix an appointment. For one question we usually need two meetings (one session is 50 minutes long). At the first session we explore the depths of the topic, on the second meeting we look for strategies and ways out of the problem(s).

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ASTROTHERAPY

Astrotherapy offers the astrological and psychological interpretation, elaboration and harmonization of problematical life-issues. The analysis is based on the ego-state theory and it explores the reasons and biographical layers of the inner conflicts and blocks. It helps activating resources in order to step forward. You don't need any astrological knowledge to start the therapy.

 

Topics, when this method can help - not mentioning all of them:

  • relationship problems, conflicts, games, blocks (with partners, parents, children, ...)

  • difficulties in finding a partner

  • problems at your workplace

  • understanding and transforming relationship to money

  • self-realization, career questions

  • self-estimation problems

  • communication problems

  • handling aggression

  • getting stuck, getting unsure, seeking ways in life

  • crisis

  • going through traumas

It is for you, if:

  • the thought of seeing in yourself what has been hidden until now makes you excited

  • you like to find your solutions of own, but an outer "eye" can be of help as well

  • you like challenges and you like to try new strategies in your everyday life

What do you get? - empathy, possibility of sharing, a mirror so that you can (also) see what you haven't seen in yourself so far, the possibility to see deeper relations, thought-provoking questions, support in changes, reinforcement if needed.

What don't you get? - you are the only one who can go on this way, nobody else can do this instead of you

How does it happen?

  • the first step is completing a questionnaire, you tell me the topic and I send you the adequate document to fill in. I need this to see what analogical patterns you repeatedly meet in your life and what kind  of situations your natal chart is lived through. This helps me avoid using clichés which don't work with everyone. If you don't want to give written answers, you can tell me about these things at the personal session(s).

  • at the beginning of the personal work there is a first meeting for free, where we can have personal impressions of each other, which is important as we are about to start a longer process. We answer all questions that come up, we define the goal of the therapy and the planned number of the sessions, we discuss the technical details.

  • then throughout the 50-minute-long sessions we talk over and deepen the topics, we explore the motives, we find connections between them and the intrapsychic patterns (we use the natal chart to do so), we work on eliminating the blocks, we look for solutions for the problems. Sometimes you might have some work to do between the sessions, and we talk about it the next time we meet. From time to time we discuss where we are and where we still plan to go.

 

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ASTROFOCUS-THERAPY: EGO-STATES

Astrofocus-therapy is based on the so-called "ego-state theory", which says we live our SELF or EGO throughout different characters. The therapy makes it possible to isolate and make these ego-states speak, and also to establish a contact  with our center, also called SELF. The method presumes that real solutions, answers can be found within ourselves, and at the same time it creates a space where these answers can come up to the surface.

It is "astro" because the theory it is based on derives form astrology: we identify the ego-states with the help of the natal chart. And it is "focus" because one session always focuses on one topic. There can be various topics, here are some types, not mentioning all of them:

  • relationship problems

  • difficulties in finding a partner

  • getting stuck, getting unsure, pattering about

  • lack of clarity

  • inner conflicts

  • control-problems

  • self-estimation problems

It is for you, if:

  • sometimes you feel like going, but you don't know which path to follow, or you know it but you still keep pattering about, getting more and more frustrated

  • sometimes you feel a tension because of your inner motives pushing you in different ways

  • you would like to understand why you relate in a specific way towards a certain question, therefore increasing self-acceptance and giving a chance to change

  • you believe the peace-bringing, joyful solutions can be found within yourself, even if you don't always know how to reach them

What do you get? - space to make your ego-states speak, empathy, helping questions, harmonization of your ego-states and a summary at the end about your realizations and new directions

What don't you get? - judgments and advice

 

What can you expect after the therapy? - more self-acceptance; stiff situations start to get going; blocks start to move towards some kind of flow; the recognitions of the therapy come to your mind in real life and give you the chance to act differently in the same situation; or the situation doesn't appear at all, because you have understood its message.

 

How does it happen?

  • we fix an appointment, you come and at the beginning we talk about your question or problem, we identify the focus we would like to work with

  • I match your ego-states with numbers (so that you don't know who is who, to make sure you don't start to think how can for example a Gemini or a Cancer part behave in a concrete situation)

  • we write these numbers onto papers, we also write a paper for the SELF and then I ask you to place them in the space as you wish or feel

  • first you always step on the SELF, and then you walk through the other ego-states in an optional order - you always represent the one you are standing on; feelings and pictures can come up, and I help you with questions to get more deeply in contact with the given part of yourself, and to get him/her into a more harmonized state

  • when every part of yourself has spoken, we can see how they relate to each other and make a dialogue between them, or sometimes we continue the work next time

  • at the end I tell you which number was which ego-state (if you like)

  • I take notes during the session, and I send you a summary a few days after the therapy, therefore you can read what happened and the thoughts you became conscious of

  • one session is about 2,5 hours long (rather 3 hours when you come for the first time)

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ASTROFOCUS-THERAPY: LIFE PATH

"When we look in the right way, all we have to do is proceed without stopping."

<Buddhist saying>

 

Before being born, we all make a life plan: we would like to cope with certain tasks, we would like to experience certain things, we would like to learn and progress, we would like to meet certain people, and we would like to do something great, here in this world. We also  bring resources for these aims. And then we turn into the right direction - usually with excitement - and start to proceed on our life path. We are conceived, we get born, we grow, and we are affected by many emotional and environmental impressions. Sometimes we get uncertain, sometimes we get confused, sometimes we get stuck, sometimes we patter about. Sometimes a little piece of ourselves stays there - no matter where this "there" is.

 

The natal chart can be matched with life phases. This gives us the possibility to step through important stages of life - according to a certain focus. Through this way we look for stagnations, we free blocks, and we help the stuck "parts" of ourselves proceed.

 

Some types of the topics we can work with:

  • getting stuck, getting unsure, pattering about

  • longing to leave

  • incapacity for joy

  • relationship problems

  • difficulties in finding a partner

  • self-estimation problems

  • recurrent conflicts

It is for you, if:

  • sometimes you feel lost, you don't know what you are doing here or in which way you could go

  • sometimes you feel like going, but you cannot move on and you keep pattering about, getting more and more frustrated

  • you experience that situations - hopelessly - happen again and again in your life

  • you believe the peace-bringing, joyful solutions can be found within yourself, even if you don't always know how to reach them

What do you get? - space to walk through your life path, empathy, helping questions, liberation of your blocks, and at the end a summary about the path you have walked through

What don't you get? - judgments and advice

 

What can you expect after the therapy? - earlier events of your life get into a new light; you'll have more self-acceptance; stiff situations start to get going; blocks start to move towards some kind of flow; you will be able to live through same situations in a different way, or give a different reaction to them

 

How does it happen?

  • we fix an appointment, you come and at the beginning we talk about your question or problem, we identify the focus we would like to work with

  • I match the planets of your natal chart with numbers and letters

  • we write these numbers and letters onto papers, we also write a paper for the SELF (SELF is the essential part of ours which came here to life with a life-plan)

  • I ask you to place the papers in the space as you wish or feel; then I put down a line symbolizing your life path, according to the order given by the natal chart;  I also put the limits of the phases of your life

  • you start the way from the SELF and in general you arrive to the present moment (sometimes, when there is much to heal in the childhood, we don't get until the present, but this OK too; the essential is to move forward)

  • throughout the "way" you walk through the phases, and the stages of the phases (the sheets of paper), feelings and pictures can come up, and I help you with questions to get more deeply in contact with yourself, and to proceed

  • at the end I can tell you what you were supposed to learn and solve in each phase

  • I take notes during the session, and I send you a summary a few days after the therapy, therefore you can read what happened

  • one session is about 2,5 hours long (rather 3 hours when you come for the first time)

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TELECONSULTATION

If you live in the country or abroad, we can have a teleconsultation or even therapy through Internet (Messenger or Skype) - except for the astrofocus-therapy which needs personal presence. If you choose this option you need to have a decent connection and undisturbed conditions. The way it happens is the same as above, just the personal meeting is substitued by an Internet connection.

 

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